I seem to be on a kick about family and how we interpret the affections and attention of those in our personal circle of family and friends. I came up with this little term, drive by phone call, which means something like:
“Hi, Mom I just called to say I love you and you are in my thoughts. How are you doing? (Not expecting a long list of what is really going on.) Well, I am on my way to a meeting so I will talk to you later. Love you, Bye, …. ”
And, there is the drive by drop in. That would be the visit where they explain as they come in the door that they don’t have time to stay. That they just came by to leave something or make sure you are alive. And you don’t have to be old to have this experience.
Well, this can be either negative or positive. And positive is healthier so I decided that is my choice. A drive by phone call is great because you know they have you on their mind, they are concerned, and it doesn’t tie up your time either. Just a loving connection!
A drive by drop in visit is cool because no matter how busy the person is, they took the time to stop by. Many times in the past I wasn’t prepared for company and really glad they did not stay long so I could get out of my PJs or whatever.
So I just invite my family and friends to do either, and I will love them for it. In fact I am going to do some of that myself and spread a little love around to others. Especially those who live alone! Then every night I can look in the mirror and ask, “Did I do a drive by today?” I did! Good girl!